I grew up in a small town in south central NE, not all that far from
SickoRicko(see blog list), but didn't meet him until a couple of years ago, he is a friend of
TBC. I have one older half brother now living in Denver, and a younger half brother and half sister, both living with in a couple of miles from my Mom and stepfather that still live in that small town. Early on I quickly got the point that in my stepfathers eyes if you were not white, christian, straight, etc you had better be dam funny or you signature is the authorization signature on the payroll
check. Now you have an idea as to why I was in total denial about being gay until I was 36.
My Mom and I are still very close even thou I have lived half a country away for the last 20 years, as for my stepfather, don't
really give a f***.
I consider any one that I have lived with or was in a
committed relationship with to have been/be a
spouse. In my early 20s I met
xwife #1. PG and I had great sex, but that is not enough to keep a relationship going. She had a
miscarriage a few months before we broke up, that is the closest I have ever been to fatherhood. A couple of years after PG(Thank God the bitch dosen't have a clue where I am today.Thank God the bitch dosen't have a clue where I am today), I met MK(M stands for Married), we were on again/off again for over 3 years because she would not leave her husband until both of her kids were out of high school, even after both of the kids told her to drop him and go be with me, yes, her kids knew, most everyone we worked with knew, most if not all of her 9 brothers and sisters knew. When the opportunity to come to OR came about there was still 2 years before her youngest would graduate, so I moved to OR at the age of 26. I don't refer to MK as a
spouse because... well several reasons, but she still has a place in my heart.
2 years after coming to OR I went back to school and got a degree in Computer Aided Drafting Technology. Graduated top of my class with a 4.0, was lucky to graduate high school with a 3.0.
It was in college that I meet a good friend
BV, who would have thought that 3 years later he would become not only my good friend but my stepson-in-law. He and EV his then future
xwife introduce me and her mother on New Years Eve 91. The following July
BV and EV got married. At their wedding reception everyone kept coming up to BC(
EV's mom) and I and saying something like "guess you 2 are next", we married 11 months later. With one "I Do" I became a husband, stepfather and
step grand father, BC, xwife #2, was 13 years older than me. BC and I did the whole white picket fence thing. We bought a nice house, had two nice cars, I quite my engineering job and created my own small construction company. After 5 years of marriage we divorced, a year later BV and EV divorced also. I lost everything and ended up filing bankruptcy 2 years later. She to still has a place in my heart.
Ok, it's time to put this away for today and go make dinner for
TBC and I.